KATE SAID
On her family and childhood
"The thing about Bill, my other dad, is that he wasn't really in our lives very much. I didn't know him really well.
I didn't understand it. My brother didn't understand it. He was sort of in and out of our lives."
"I have zero problems when people say, 'God, you look like your mother.' I go, 'Well, great! Thanks!'"
"I would never let my mom do my hair, she would always make my pony tail bumpy."
"My mother has given more to people than anyone I've ever met. It's very easy to
make people cry, but there is nothing harder to do than make someone smile. And
it's a gift, whether it belongs to Goldie Hawn or Meryl Streep... or myself."
"Growing up I thought my mom was the coolest mom thing on the planet."
[on being compared to Goldie] "To me, she's my mommy. She popped me out and raised me and so I
don't think of things like that. Yes, of course, my mother is probably one of the greatest female
comediennes of all time and that makes me proud but more important are the things she's taught us
as a mom. What more could you ask for?"
"I would love to work with my Pa. I think he's such a wonderful actor, and obviously working with my mom would be great.
They're both so talented. But it's not something we're actively looking for."
[On what got her into acting] "I think that even people who knew me before I knew I wanted to act, probably knew that I was going to do it. Because I was always performing
and doing something. I was all over the place as a child; I was always singing songs to somebody or dancing or doing a thing that I saw on "The Harvey Sisters"
or something. I really was always 'on.'"
"We'd go home after parties and we'd have to laugh at how some of these people lived and how they treated their
kids. It's a business where people are so me me me, they forget where the focus should be"
"I always knew I wanted to act. And there was never a thought about not doing it because my mother was
such a big star. We were just encouraged to do what we wanted."
"My parents told me 'if you ever believe anything anybody ever tells you about who you are, what
you are, your image or if they hate you or love you, you're going to be miserable. You do your
job no matter what you do, you do it the best you can and you go home and really concern yourself
with your homelife because that's where people blossom as people. Not when you're being berated or elated'.
“People ask me that, about my parents, growing up. I don’t ever remember a defining moment where I understood
what my parents did. It was their job, like anybody.”
"It was just a normal childhood, really. We'd get on an airplane and go to Colorado. And literally Mom would make stew."
"We were close in age and hated each other immensely for a while. Oliver was so charming and that always bugged me
so much when he was little because he could get away with anything. I was too up front and honest. I hated him for
being too charming and he just hated me back." [on Oliver]
"My parents would not let us come on set unless we had a job so we'd either work in wardrobe or the camera department,
or as a gopher or a PA (personal assistant). Everybody thinks a film set is all fun and games but objectively
everybody's working really hard, really long hours and when kids come on set it can be sometimes difficult for people
to work so, with my parents, if we were there, we went to work. And for me, that's what made me fall in love with making
movies – I enjoy being on a movie set and that's because I enjoy all aspects of it."
"I have zero problems when people say, 'god, you look like your mother'. I go, 'well, great, thanks!'. As I get older
the resemblance gets spookier. There are times when we look so much alike that it freaks us both out."
"My mom and dad are a really good template on how to keep a relationship through everything... They just have a
blast together, no matter what. They just know how to do it."
"Kids need stability. My parents never dragged us around and I don't plan on doing it either. They did such a good
job. We had so much fun growing up and I still have so much fun with my family. I only hope that our kids have as
much fun as we did. There's nothing like it."
"I remember once when she was sunbathing outside and I ran over to her, jumped up and lay down on her. She was so
war, when she hugged me – I remember that sensation so clearly. When I look back at that moment, it embodies what
she is to me, the very essence of motherhood and nurturing." [on Goldie, about a family trip to Ibiza when Kate was 3]
"We didn’t have normal schedules, we travelled a lot. But, at the same time, my parents were adamant that we have a
very solid, grounded childhood. I’ve always felt very disassociated from the way people perceive Hollywood to be."
On her ex-husband, Chris Robinson
"Everyday, I tell my husband, 'Maybe we should cash in. I'll make handmade lotion and you can write music and sell it on the Internet.'"
"Chris and I love to sing and play the guitar when we sing him [Ryder] a lullaby. We sing him these really
pretty songs like George Jones' 'Just One More'. It sounds good. And it makes him sleepy, but
the song is about an alcoholic. Maybe we shouldn't be singing that to a five-month-old child!"
"I love that man sooo much, it's ridiculous. Like, I want to eat him up. With a spoon! And,
like, jump into his skin. I'm not kidding - I could be just like totally s---house crazy!
That's what Chris says they call it down South."
"If you knew Chris, and if you saw us together, there is not one person I know that doesn't get
it. I got really lucky really young is how I look at it. It put me so at peace".
"We hung out together in New York, I went home for my birthday and I came back three days
later, and I brought three huge suitcases and my dog and I just moved in." [on getting together with Chris]
"It takes a grown-up to be able to realise that something’s not working. The transition with children is
when you get scared. It’s a huge decision. Well, I still love [Ryder’s] dad. It’s that simple. Daddy and
I still spend lots of time together."
"I love Chris to pieces. He's my first huge love. I spent seven years with Chris. I was 20 when I met him.
We still talk every day. He still cracks me up. And Ryder feels that."
On Ryder, pregnancy and motherhood
"I can't wait until it's time to find fun and stylish maternity wear. I'm actually more excited about dressing as a pregnant woman. You get to present something so completely female."
"Being a mom is really hard, and you make mistakes all the time, and you have to just chug through it."
"[Ryder's] great. It's so much fun! He's getting so big and it's happening so fast. We don't
spend much time in Los Angeles. We spend a lot of time in New York, but we're pretty much on the
road experiencing our life."
[On balancing family with career] "You just want to be home and be available at all times for your baby. But you
make it happen."
"Well, I am restricted. The question is, does it bother me? And it doesn’t at all. I’m a mom and that’s my first
priority. There are a lot of people who say, ‘Do you know what I did for you? Have you any idea about the things
I gave up?’ I could never be like that."
"As for dating as a single mum: “Any guy I ever meet is always going to come second to my son,. And you get to weed out
the boys from the men. You definitely know which ones are the boys."
"I know more about them than my brothers sometimes. I’ve never been more excited to be a soccer mom. And I will
totally be the snack mom – that’s going to be the best part." [on sports and being a soccer mom]
"It's a real mix between Chris and me. Chris is sharp funny, kind of like a jokester, whereas I am like more physically
funny, and he's got a little bit of both." [on Ryder's personality]
"When you see your kids happy, that’s the moment when you realize, ‘Ah! I am so…there is nothing else on the planet
I would rather be doing than watch my child be this happy at this moment.’ That’s the great and true reward for
everything."
"The one thing that is very different about being a single mom is dating. But I would rather be home with my son,
cooking dinner, than going out with a guy."
"He's just so committed and he's a perfectionist, which means he's either going to be a bitter musician or a
method actor - I'm terrified. Maybe I'll try to get him a little bit more excited about being positive and not so
serious about things."
On her career
"You can't imagine. 21 and being nominated for an Oscar is unbelievable. To me, I was just in shock. It was an incredible moment. When I lost, I just kind of went, "Okay,"
and my dad was saying, "Well, congratulations. Welcome to your life and welcome to the rest of your career." I think he basically was saying this is what it is. Now go do your job."
"Doors may have opened for me, but no one hires me unless they think I can do the job."
[After receiving Premiere Magazine New Power Award] "I just hope I have a nice long career and everything goes good."
"I don’t feel famous, or almost famous. I love doing what I do and meeting people, and I love traveling.
I feel blessed to have this career, but I don’t consider myself a star. I think if you get too caught up
in that it can be detrimental. I think, personally, you’re screwed."
"Comedy is a difficult thing to do, but I'm more attracted to dramatic roles. But everything that you do when
you act is challenging. At least for me, every character that I would like to play - and that, hopefully,
people would like me to be a part of - is gonna be challenging."
"For some reason, movies that seem to have more comedy get sent my way. Maybe people associate me more with
comedy because of my mother, and I don't think that's a positive or negative. But it's probably more related
to my personality. I'm not a real dark and mysterious person. I don't feel like I have anything to hide and
I like to have a good time."
"I've reached an amount of success that has made me feel very blessed to actually get to where I've gotten to."
"I am very happy with the way my career has gone. I couldn't be more pleased. I just feel so lucky to have done the
things that I've done, worked with the people I've worked with - it's really a blast and [there's] way more to
come, you know. And in terms of my career, I can't wait to get into my 30s."
On herself
"I'm a sap. I cry at commercials. I'm always crying at songs. I cried when the ant died in Honey, I Shrunk the Kids. I cry all the time."
"I'm superstitious... but not like wear the same underwear for two weeks superstitious"
"I have a big, flamboyant, open personality, which I think is why people may be saying these nice things about me."
"Maybe the reason I don't have a problem with nudity is that since I have such small breasts, I never feel that they
are gratuitous."
"I'm a hippie at heart. I wear the clothes, and they're the best. And the music is incredible, too."
"I'm not a big fan of romantic comedies, believe it or not... Well, I don't run out to see them."
"I take my work seriously and myself not seriously"
"I don't consider myself better than any other girl walking down the street. But a lot of people in the industry
aren't that way."
"Sure, I get depressed. But I never feel like it's a bad thing. That's part of the journey in life, and if you have
to go there, you go there."
"Why be intimidated?' I want to be able to give it all to whoever wants it at any particular time. I
like being uninhibited."
"I just love to have fears, because I love to be able to conquer them."
"If I could have one gift, it would be to help everybody see all the beautiful things in life and be
happy. And if that happened, there would be more...bubbles! ... And I have no idea what that means!"
"I was okay being alone. I wasn't somebody who always needed to be in a relationship. I was out with
my girlfriends in New York having a great time."
"I was raised to be the most genuine person I could be and that's what I look for in other people."
"I've always been really comfortable with who I am and the way I look. I'm not trying to prove a point to anybody, so
people can say what they want, I guess. It just doesn't worry me."
On life
"I'm happy. I'm happy at home, I'm happy with my family, I'm happy with my relationship. [My career] is just a plus. I can take all the criticism in the world, and it really won't affect me.
I'm just having a great time being alive. How lucky are we just to be here and healthy? What a fun thing."
On love, relationships and marriage
[On dating] "I hated it. But you know, I was really happy being single. I wasn't ever the kind of girl who always wanted
or needed to be in a relationship. I was always the one who wanted to get out of the relationship."
[On married life] "Some guy said to me the other day, and he was just getting pumped up for the SuperBowl I'm sure, he said,
"It's funny because for girls, when you get married, the fun begins and for guys when you get married, the fun ends."
What a horrible thing to say. That's horrible. I think he's wrong. Definitely for me, it opened up so many things."
"When you're married, you can get too settled. I personally like to keep my husband on his toes.
How do I do that? Flirting."
"My parents always said 'Sex is the best thing in the world.' It is so great, so much fun.
When you start having it you're going to love it. But it's that much better when you
love somebody, so just remember that'"
"I don't believe (monogamy) is realistic. But, I believe that we, as people, have the power to make it happen."
"The problem a lot of women have is they think they have to dress to impress and be mysterious and play
the rule book. I always think that if you are completely yourself and having a good time, you'll find
that guy. He'll find you and that all comes with just being honest".
“Marriage is definitely not something I’m looking for. But the divorce doesn’t put me off. I’ll just see what
happens. I think a lot of times people are terrified of love and stop themselves from experiencing it. I don’t ever
want to get that jaded. I do believe in love. I believe that when you really open yourself up to love, it’s
the most beautiful thing." [in August 2010]
"My favorite Muse song? Ha ha ha! I'm not well versed enough on that. I'm getting there, though, Matt and I are just
learning about each other and it's wonderful." [on Matthew Bellamy, in August 2010]
On other celebrities
"Gentle, generous, a lover. He was just a sweetheart." - on Heath Ledger
"When I was little, I had such a crush on Kiefer Sutherland. I had a Lost Boys poster
on my wall. I met him once when I was at a hamburger joint with my dad. I don't know if
Kiefer remembers. I should never be talking about this."
"There are certain people you meet throughout your career that you just love. Naomi Watts was one person, we met
and she's remained someone that I'll always love and remain friends with. Liv Tyler, same thing. Matthew [McConaugey].
I just love him. And it's nothing romantic, it's nothing sexual — although I feel there is a sort of weird sexual
tension because we're male and female — I just love him, yeah."
"We must have had some kind of experience together in another life because we seem to be connected in this one.
Everybody thinks co-stars hook up and everybody asks 'why haven't you two been together?' – well, one, I was
married when we met and now he's having a baby. But even more than that, we're not compatible as romantic figures,
even though we have that sort of sexual energy with each other – we just kind of enjoy each other." - on Matthew McConaughey
On everything else
"I'm in the process of finding a house, but I can't find one. I'm waiting for the perfect house. I want a garden;
boy, do I want a garden. I need to be able to garden when I'm in my weird funky meditation kind of mood. Sitting
out and having a coffee and a smoke in my garden. That's what I need."
"I've seen ghosts and experienced mystical things. I've seen many ghosts. My mom
is super into that stuff, we swap stories of our experiences all the time. I think
I got my psychic abilities from her."
"Just because you're an actor doesn't mean you weren't educated politically. Isn't it funny the people
complaining about celebrities speaking out are all Republicans? Do these people forget they voted
for Ronald Reagan? No matter what your politics are, you should be able to integrate knowledge
from all sides. Nobody should ever shut up. That's patriotism! I'll listen to anyone's opinion."
"Because you're not perfectly skinny you're not thought to be as appealing which I think is false. Besides, who
wants to be perfect? It's so ugly."
[On the end of 'Friends'] "It's hard to leave a movie after three or four months and they've been doing
it for 10 years! That's heartbreaking."
[on France] "I met the most incredible friends and beautiful people, and I just totally fell in love with
Paris. I can't even describe the city, it's so alive. The young people there believe in the things going
on in the world, and they know they have a voice. There are protests every day. Like 30,000 people
gathering in the streets, and 500,000 people gathering at one point. I felt so alive, I was so happy there.
So much so, that when we came back from Paris we were all depressed. We came back and were like, oh God, what are
we doing? We wanted to be back there. You know, where you eat until all hours, and just enjoy humanity. "
"Make sure to take time for yourself every day. Even if you have to
lock yourself in the bathroom for two minutes, do it. It's our nature
as women to take care of everything and forget about ourselves. It's
important to be present and strong for your kids, and to do that, you
need some breathing space."
"Whenever I feel stressed out or like I'm going crazy, I stop myself and say how lucky I am to be able to
do what I do. I'm so lucky to be able to have my baby with me everywhere I go."
"This is so intense! I felt so in love with Cameron and his vision, the script is so amazing." - part of her acceptance speech
at the Golden Globes 2001
"People write whatever they are going to write, and you have to laugh. Some like to be mean, which is a shame,
but I go the old karma route: They will live with that, and I'll just continue knowing my truth." [on the media]
“It was starting to drive me crazy! I didn’t like the way the car smelt, or my hair and clothes. It takes you away from
the family and the things you’re doing. You don’t realize it at the time. Then when you’re done, you go, ‘Wow, I do
so much more in a day — including eat.’” - on why she gave up smoking.
“People who know me know that I’m the annoying person at the party who always sings. I just can’t help it. I sing the
national anthem, anything. Now I guess my secret is out.” - on her love for singing.
"I'm an accessories person. I love comfortable clothes and a lot of accessories. When it comes to clothes, my personal
style has never changed. I'm very specific about the things I like –- a lot of printed dresses, lots of different
textures. I can't get away from flowing things. I don't like clothes that constrict me. It's, like, 'Would you like
to put some clothes on?' 'No, I wouldn't!'" [on her personal style]
"I've got a lot of friends in the fashion industry and I have so much respect for them –- they work so hard. Stella
[McCartney] dresses me. What I love about her is that everything she designs is comfortable. She understands where
women want to cover themselves, where they want things to be flattering."
"I don’t have enough time on this planet to worry about things like that." [on worrying about people judging her appearance]